Abusive Relationship Guide

Have you ever been called names such as ugly, fat, stupid, dirty or other similar labels by your husband? Is your husband upset whenever you spend time with friends or family? Have you ever found yourself being afraid that he might leave you, causing you conform to his requests and act in ways that he desires? Do you find that you are suffering from back pain that is unexplained? Have you started actually believing that maybe he is right and you are actually, ugly, fat, stupid, dirty?

I am sorry to tell you this but you are probably in an abusive relationship.

Here is some information that i gathered for you to look at and see if you are in that situation or if you might know somebody in this situation. What you learn here could save your life or the life of another woman.
Here is an image that i found that sums it up:

Type of Abuse:
POWER and CONTROL

Abusers believe they have a right to control their partners by:

• Telling them what to do and expecting obedience

• Using force to maintain power and control over partners

• Feeling their partners have no right to challenge their desire for power and control

• Feeling justified making the victim comply

• Blaming the abuse on the partner and not accepting responsibility for wrongful acts.

ISOLATION

• limiting outside involvement

• making another avoid people/friends/family by deliberately embarrassing or humiliating them in front of others

• expecting another to report every move and activity

• restricting use of the car

• moving residences

EMOTIONAL ABUSE

• putting another down/name-calling

• ignoring or discounting activities and accomplishments

• withholding approval or affection

• making another feel as if they are crazy in public or through private humiliation

• unreasonable jealousy and suspicion

• playing mind games

ECONOMIC ABUSE

• preventing another from getting or keeping a job

• withholding funds

• spending family income without consent and/or making the partner struggle to pay bills

• not letting someone know of or have access to family/personal income

• forcing someone to ask for basic necessities

INTIMIDATION

• driving recklessly to make another feel threatened or endangered

• destroying property or cherished possessions

• making another afraid by using looks/actions/gestures

• throwing objects as an expression of anger to make another feel threatened

• displaying weapons

USING CHILDREN or PETS

• threatening to take the children away

• making the partner feel guilty about the children

• abusing children or pets to punish the partner

• using the children to relay messages

USING PRIVILEDGE

• treating another like a servant

• making all the big decisions

• being the one to define male and female roles

• acting like the master or queen of the castle

SEXUAL ABUSE

• sex on demand or sexual withholding

• physical assaults during sexual intercourse

• spousal rapes or non-consensual sex

• sexually degrading language

• denying reproductive freedom

THREATS

• threats of violence against significant third parties

• threats to commit physical or sexual harm

• threats to commit property destruction

• threats to commit suicide or murder

PHYSICAL ABUSE

• biting/scratching

• slapping/punching

• kicking/stomping

• throwing objects at another

• locking another in a closet or utilizing other confinement

• sleep interference and/or deliberately exhausting the partner with unreasonable demands and lack of rest

• deprivation of heat or food

• shoving another down steps or into objects

• assaults with weapons such as knives/guns/other objects