Picking the right guy!!

Ok i posted a comment of the Facebook Page Women of Chabad (click the link) and it went this way:
Appreciate who your husband is and don’t try to change him. You KNEW who he was when you married him. Trying to make him into something different is: A. a waste of your time because it will not work and B. just annoying. He was flawless in your eyes when you first met. Is he really not good enough now?

But i know that many Orthodox Jews do not wait and date for years so i will add a little professional thought into the matter.

Must orthodox women do not get to date for 2 years and yes usually in psychology it is recommended that you date for 1.5 years before you get married, it's just a fact that it takes a little while to know your future bashert!

Here is my recommendation; if you are unable to date for a long time (not always possible) look at his family.
1. Look at how his father is treating his mother. Does he help her with the cleaning after shabbat dinner? Does he help with the grandchildren? Is she his queen?
Children learn from their parents and i am sure when you look at how you are or how your husband is, it often mimics what you have seen at your own home. Ok i know some of you will say, NO NOT TRUE but... it is. Off course NOT ALWAYS but often.... See More
2. Does your (possible) future husband loves his family? Loves his mother, respects and looks up to his father (who is a good guy! if the father is not a good guy... not a good thing that your future husband looks up to a not very good man). People who came from a strong family often create a strong family themselves. They learned how to do it from home. If you came from a home who did not do that, MAKE SURE TO LOOK FOR A GUY WHO KNOWS HOW TO DO IT, HE WILL TEACH YOU HOW IT GETS DONE). A guy who hates his family has unfinished business (i will write more about it in another post) and unfinished business is always UNFINISHED BUSINESS!!!!